i pulled up & parked in front of the store.
as i was rolling up my window,
i heard this terrible yelling & shouting!
i looked around to see where it was coming from~
the car right NEXT to me!
big old boat of a car,
little tiny OLD people inside!
i SWEAR to god~ they were like 90 years old!
normally, i would look at them with smiling eyes
with soft eyes and a gentle smile
i would NORMALLY say to myself,
"how sweet! they're 90 & still together!"
not today!
no ma'am!
today was different.
i looked over into their car
the man was
YELLING
PUSHING
SHOUTING
SMACKING
SLAPPING
i was in shock!
i could not believe my fucking eyes!!!
then our eyes locked
mine & the old mans.
we STARED at each other for a few moments.
i was SURE that he would be embarrassed,
and STOP.
oh no!
no ma'am.
not today.
he turned his gaze back to his tiny, frail wife~
and with a look of hatred, continued with the yelling and hitting. she raised her hands to PROTECT herself from his blows. i didn't even think. i just acted. i jumped out of my car slammed my door shut pasted myself against the woman's window (it was rolled up, it was a hot day, and only about 1 inch open) i tried to climb through that 1 inch opening~
as I shouted at the man
"HEY! HEY! HEY!"
it took him that many "hey"s to STOP what he was doing
and look at me! so he looks at me
"What?"
like he doesn't fucking know what I'm about to say!
"STOP HITTING HER!!!
STOP SMACKING HER!!!
STOP YELLING AT HER!!!"
to which he ever-so-snidely shirks his shoulders and tells me
"Mind your own business!"
i SWEAR TO GOD!!! something just SNAPPED inside me! this little, tiny, old, frail, weak, pale woman who is probably 90 years old and weighs 70 pounds looks up at me with her clear, sky blue eyes FILLED WITH TERROR i look at her i'm trying to touch her through the closed car window i say to her (VERY LOUDLY)
"You don't have to put up with this!
You don't deserve this!
He doesn't GET to hit you!!!
He doesn't GET to yell at you!
IT'S NOT OK!!!!"
again, the old fucker...
"Mind your own business!"
to which I shout,
"NO!" "This IS my business!
You don't GET to treat her like this!!!"
and then, Mr. Big-Tough-Macho -Man says to me,
"Well! She MADE A MISTAKE! I have to SHOW HER that she made a mistake!"
again... more fucking snapping going off inside me! I lost it!
"You don't put your fucking hands on her!
She made a MISTAKE?
Fine! Talk to her!
You don't FUCKING YELL AT HER!!!
you don"t fucking smack her around!!!"
he tried to dismiss me, as if i had no idea what i was talking about. i said "THis is NOT OK! This IS ILLEGAL!!!" he smirked. (SNAP) "I'll call the cops!" more smirking "I'll call the fucking cops!" then the little old woman looked up at me and MOUTHED
"PLEASE call the police!"
holy fucking shit-balls!!! so, Tough-Guy puts his car in reverse I run to the front of his car pointing at the license plate and shouting out the plate # he looks at me & does the "WHAT?" motion i SHOUT
"I GOT YOUR FUCKING NUMBER! I'M CALLING THE COPS!!!"
they leave. i walk into the store, & lock eyes with this guy standing in line, "FUCKING ASSHOLE!" he says, "Excuse me?" ha ha ha "SORRY! Not you! There's this fucking 90 year old man out there beating the shit out of his wife!" everyone in the store is looking at me nobody does anything i go to the back use the store phone dial 911 make a report THEN as i'm checking out~ i say to the cashier, "I'm SHAKING so bad!" she leans in & whispers "I know." . . . then she says, "The woman has Alzheimer's. He does that all the time to her. They are in here all the time, he's always yelling at her, and hitting her. Today, she had BLOOD coming out of her ears." all of this, is whispered to me, under her breath, so nobody hears. "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME??? WHen they were JUST in here~ she had BLOOD coming out of her EARS???" dear god. i left. i called the police again, told them about the alzheimer's & the blood. they arrested him. she wouldn't cooperate. she explained, "I made a mistake, he had to show me." oh my god. oh my god. oh MY FUCKING GOD!!!! you see, i think what ultimately made me snap was when she looked up at me as i told her "YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS!" she didn't know any different. she had put up with it for more than 50 years. it is what she knew. it was normal to her.
it hit just a WEE FUCKING close to home~ normally, in the past, i do mind my own business, i really do. but, COME ON PEOPLE!!! we are all in this together! we GOTTA help each other out! we HAVE TO step out we HAVE TO stand up for fucking sakes, it's time to BE BRAVE!!! it's SCARY as SHIT!!!! but, soooooo worth it! the police asked if i'd be willing to go to court & testify against Mr. Macho Man? "FUCK YA!" was my polite answer! It takes a very SPECIAL kind of "man" to PUT DOWN HIT YELL AT SMACK SCREAM AT PUNCH DEMEAN INTIMIDATE another human being let alone,
a woman,
his beloved wife!
YA!
FUCKING TOUGH GUY!
Give me a fucking break! spineless worthless pathetic
more life lessons.
more to show my kids~
when someone HITS you,
they DON'T LOVE YOU!
even if they SAY they do.
when someone YELLS AT YOU~
and PUTS YOU DOWN,
the do NOT love you,
even in the SAY they do!
cause that's one thing i get!
i SO get it.
took me 17+ years,
but,
i GET IT!
ACTIONS
ACTIONS, my friends,
speak SO VERY MUCH LOUDER
than empty, meaningless words.
peace&love.
e.
as i was rolling up my window,
i heard this terrible yelling & shouting!
i looked around to see where it was coming from~
the car right NEXT to me!
big old boat of a car,
little tiny OLD people inside!
i SWEAR to god~ they were like 90 years old!
normally, i would look at them with smiling eyes
with soft eyes and a gentle smile
i would NORMALLY say to myself,
"how sweet! they're 90 & still together!"
not today!
no ma'am!
today was different.
i looked over into their car
the man was
YELLING
PUSHING
SHOUTING
SMACKING
SLAPPING
i was in shock!
i could not believe my fucking eyes!!!
then our eyes locked
mine & the old mans.
we STARED at each other for a few moments.
i was SURE that he would be embarrassed,
and STOP.
oh no!
no ma'am.
not today.
he turned his gaze back to his tiny, frail wife~
and with a look of hatred, continued with the yelling and hitting. she raised her hands to PROTECT herself from his blows. i didn't even think. i just acted. i jumped out of my car slammed my door shut pasted myself against the woman's window (it was rolled up, it was a hot day, and only about 1 inch open) i tried to climb through that 1 inch opening~
as I shouted at the man
"HEY! HEY! HEY!"
it took him that many "hey"s to STOP what he was doing
and look at me! so he looks at me
"What?"
like he doesn't fucking know what I'm about to say!
"STOP HITTING HER!!!
STOP SMACKING HER!!!
STOP YELLING AT HER!!!"
to which he ever-so-snidely shirks his shoulders and tells me
"Mind your own business!"
i SWEAR TO GOD!!! something just SNAPPED inside me! this little, tiny, old, frail, weak, pale woman who is probably 90 years old and weighs 70 pounds looks up at me with her clear, sky blue eyes FILLED WITH TERROR i look at her i'm trying to touch her through the closed car window i say to her (VERY LOUDLY)
"You don't have to put up with this!
You don't deserve this!
He doesn't GET to hit you!!!
He doesn't GET to yell at you!
IT'S NOT OK!!!!"
again, the old fucker...
"Mind your own business!"
to which I shout,
"NO!" "This IS my business!
You don't GET to treat her like this!!!"
and then, Mr. Big-Tough-Macho -Man says to me,
"Well! She MADE A MISTAKE! I have to SHOW HER that she made a mistake!"
again... more fucking snapping going off inside me! I lost it!
"You don't put your fucking hands on her!
She made a MISTAKE?
Fine! Talk to her!
You don't FUCKING YELL AT HER!!!
you don"t fucking smack her around!!!"
he tried to dismiss me, as if i had no idea what i was talking about. i said "THis is NOT OK! This IS ILLEGAL!!!" he smirked. (SNAP) "I'll call the cops!" more smirking "I'll call the fucking cops!" then the little old woman looked up at me and MOUTHED
"PLEASE call the police!"
holy fucking shit-balls!!! so, Tough-Guy puts his car in reverse I run to the front of his car pointing at the license plate and shouting out the plate # he looks at me & does the "WHAT?" motion i SHOUT
"I GOT YOUR FUCKING NUMBER! I'M CALLING THE COPS!!!"
they leave. i walk into the store, & lock eyes with this guy standing in line, "FUCKING ASSHOLE!" he says, "Excuse me?" ha ha ha "SORRY! Not you! There's this fucking 90 year old man out there beating the shit out of his wife!" everyone in the store is looking at me nobody does anything i go to the back use the store phone dial 911 make a report THEN as i'm checking out~ i say to the cashier, "I'm SHAKING so bad!" she leans in & whispers "I know." . . . then she says, "The woman has Alzheimer's. He does that all the time to her. They are in here all the time, he's always yelling at her, and hitting her. Today, she had BLOOD coming out of her ears." all of this, is whispered to me, under her breath, so nobody hears. "ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME??? WHen they were JUST in here~ she had BLOOD coming out of her EARS???" dear god. i left. i called the police again, told them about the alzheimer's & the blood. they arrested him. she wouldn't cooperate. she explained, "I made a mistake, he had to show me." oh my god. oh my god. oh MY FUCKING GOD!!!! you see, i think what ultimately made me snap was when she looked up at me as i told her "YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS!" she didn't know any different. she had put up with it for more than 50 years. it is what she knew. it was normal to her.
it hit just a WEE FUCKING close to home~ normally, in the past, i do mind my own business, i really do. but, COME ON PEOPLE!!! we are all in this together! we GOTTA help each other out! we HAVE TO step out we HAVE TO stand up for fucking sakes, it's time to BE BRAVE!!! it's SCARY as SHIT!!!! but, soooooo worth it! the police asked if i'd be willing to go to court & testify against Mr. Macho Man? "FUCK YA!" was my polite answer! It takes a very SPECIAL kind of "man" to PUT DOWN HIT YELL AT SMACK SCREAM AT PUNCH DEMEAN INTIMIDATE another human being let alone,
a woman,
his beloved wife!
YA!
FUCKING TOUGH GUY!
Give me a fucking break! spineless worthless pathetic
more life lessons.
more to show my kids~
when someone HITS you,
they DON'T LOVE YOU!
even if they SAY they do.
when someone YELLS AT YOU~
and PUTS YOU DOWN,
the do NOT love you,
even in the SAY they do!
cause that's one thing i get!
i SO get it.
took me 17+ years,
but,
i GET IT!
ACTIONS
ACTIONS, my friends,
speak SO VERY MUCH LOUDER
than empty, meaningless words.
peace&love.
e.
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8 comments:
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i believe life is a reflection of ourselves...
i believe you just had the chance to stand up for yourself
YOU have grown
<3
Way to go Erica... I never mind my own business when it comes to stuff like that... to hell with giving people like that privacy... think of their kids if they have any..to hit & humiliate only teaches kids to hit & humiliate.
Wear a cape and mask today Lady, you're a hero
WoW..... it took so much courage to do what you did. A very selfless act. Sooooo proud of you. Sad the woman had been beaten down so low she couldnt stand up for herself in the end. I wonder if they had children? I wonder if she has anyone to turn to? It's a big scary world out there for a lady who has been with someone for so long.
Thank you for sharing this.... it's good to out the bad guys. And maybe, just maybe, he'll remember what can happen if he does it again. Maybe you woke him up to his behavior.
xoxoxo
Yay you! Kudos. More people need to speak up - loud! x
Good for you! You are brave to stand up for what you believe and actually do something about it!
Holy Shit! Mom told me you went off on some jackass that was abusing his wife. That story was incredible! Look out assholes, We ain't gonna take it...NO! We ain't gonna take it..We're NOT gonna TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!
I am sending you a pink TASER for your own protection dealing with dirtballs. My Taser is camo-flauggy and ready to go and worth every penny.
You are a LIGHT in this WORLD! Inspiring many. Love you sister.
Nicole
You are brave Erica. I'm sure this must have been healing for you. You are taking your own power back.
What makes me so sad is that obviously other people witnessed this and NOBODY did anything.... I'm sending love to that little lady (and you too).
how disturbing... how disturbing that so many people saw all this go on... and did nothing... yet if it were a child would they have done something? maybe not... maybe they were waiting for someone else. i know this is an old post...but i am thankful that this day, you were that someone else! you inconvenienced yourself to potentially save another... how disappointing and really embarassing that that grocery clerk/store clerk would even talk about it? how simple it would have been for any of those ppl to dial 9-1-1. what a shame!
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